The fact is, he has these sexy flirtations with other women, but you don’t really know why…
because I know there are women reading this thinking, “Why should a woman do for this flirtatious disrespectful pig of a man? Here’s the deal – you’re asking me this question because you do not find his behavior acceptable. A guy always knows a woman’s limit is measured by how much she’s willing to tolerate.
And yet, you’ve been demonstrating to him that you’re OK with it. Women feel this instinctively and will usually try to put up a front, claiming that they won’t stand for his bad behavior and making empty threats.
Rather than wanting him to change, the better path is to move towards understanding each other better.
Understanding each other is the basis of connection.
Some people have voids inside them and they forever try to fill them – with having other people desire them, with sex, with power, with money, etc.
In many cases, the void that people feel is caused by a feeling of separateness – a feeling that we don’t belong and aren’t acceptable.
But I can’t think of a time where the insecurity of one partner inspired a change in the other partner.
Especially when the insecure partner isn’t willing to walk away regardless of whether or not they get what they want.
You chose him – you knew what kind of an animal he was when you started going out.
It’s not like one morning he just went out and started having sexy flirtations with other women all of a sudden and you were shocked. but secretly you hoped and believed that he would change for you.
When men act out in whatever way they act out, you’ll find what I just described at the heart of the matter: a deep feeling of separateness, insignificance and undesirability.