"If I were to draw up a hypothetical though, the first thing I could see making me apprehensive is if I do not feel a connection emotionally and relationally (i.e.do our personalities mesh, does she seem to understand me and my passions in a way that others might now, do we actually enjoy being in each others company, etc.)." There are a lot of reasons a man might hesitate to commit, but they may not all be bad ones.
You like him, he likes you, you text all the time, maybe you have even gone on a string of dates—but he won't commit.
Or maybe it's just that you haven't even broached the subject.
"The most gregarious guy in the room may also be the one trying to hide the most," he explains.
"I want your attention, but only at what I want you to focus on." Dan's advice for women who want a man to commit?
"I was always apprehensive because I did not want to give up my freedom. I wanted to be able to go out of town for a long weekend at the drop of a hat, and be able to live life without a plan." Tim says that for him, the biggest fear in a committed relationship is that he'll lose what he loves about his life.
"A guy could be wondering ' If I commit, am I going to lose the ability to do x, y and z? "Which really means, ' Am I going to lose the ability to be myself?
Men and women today frequently find themselves languishing in a relationship status black hole.
As far as I can tell, neither sex is a fan of this phase of courtship, often referred to as the "talking," "hanging out," or—if you are lucky to have such clarity—the "just dating" phase.
Maybe you are waiting for him to "take the lead" by letting you know he doesn't want to date anyone else.
Whatever the case, we women often find ourselves wondering what might be standing in the way of our exclusivity being unambiguously legit.
Perhaps past relationships have been unhealthy or maybe "The Old Ball and Chain" joke is more damaging to male/female relationships than we might have thought.