Not only is this a warning sign that they’re not really compatible with you, but in all honesty, they might be a total asshole too.
One way to survive it is to look at patterns of behaviours and decisions that have led us into terrible places in the past and think “maybe let’s not do that this time’.
We all live in the swamp together and we have to do our best to survive it.
Enjoy the whole delicious hideous mess of being alive.
I don’t need to tell you that dating someone is one of the biggest decisions you can possibly make. You seriously need to get the hell away from someone like that.
Life is for doing a bunch of cool stuff and meeting people what make you happy and eating hotdogs in the bath.
Maybe it’s that you keep eating ice cream even though you’re 90 per cent sure you’re lactose intolerant and you’ve had a rash on your tit since July. Which is actually essentially the same thing on account of how liking someone means wanting them to feel good and liked and fixing your behavior to demonstrate that. Except not obviously because we all keep flipping putting up with it. And then withdraw your precious delicious time and energy and refocus it in places that actually produce returns and make you feel good. Same goes for going out with people who aren’t even remotely ready for a relationship and trying to change them into someone who is. Even if it was possible for you to change them into someone who’ll treat you well and return all the energy you’ve poured into them (it’s not but just imagine) I promise you that you don’t have time.But what is for certain is this: it’s ridiculous and will definitely (OK not definitely) ruin your life unless you use your brain about it. Because I just want us all to get along and have a nice time and you’re ruining it.If you’re someone who, like me, has been a massive tit about dating in the past: you have to read this. Being single can be lonely and it can be depressing, yes.A classic example of this is if they’re always happy to go out drinking with their friends, but they get mad when you do the same. They fail at something, but somehow, you’re the one apologizing for it.If this is the case, it’s a surefire sign that they’re manipulative and skillful at turning everything into your fault. How terrible is it to go out to a public place and watch them flirt with another person right in front of you, even if it’s just the waiter/waitress?! Maybe it’s letting insecurity interrupt your happiness, or pushing people away because you’re scared to be vulnerable. Or at least people who don’t behave as though they like you. Next time someone starts treating you like an old bag of milk, instead of making excuses for them, tell them “Hey, don’t do that”. You can’t glue macaroni on a man and call him your boyfriend. They just get mad and make you buy them a new t-shirt.