For now, my advice is to also play the waiting game with the ex -- take your time before you meet him or her. Realize you are taking someone else's child into your life.Show that you care about the child, and you will go a long way towards a good relationship with the mother or father of your brand new kid.Don't Be Their Friend Just as with any old parent-child relationship, it's a bad idea to try to be "friends" with your significant other's child.
I recommend waiting at least 3 months before the introduction.Even if you already know the children, you shouldn't be showing up too soon. She was married and was actually pregnant with her third child when I "met" her.But some of the things they said or did were NOT funny. You will show me the same respect that you show women like your mother or teachers." BAM. You'll know when it's the right time -- mostly because you'll feel like your head is going to explode. Since it's his house, the tween will not realize the awkwardness of the situation.Keep Your Own Life and Rules You'll need to find out the "rules" from the parent. The boyfriend might be oblivious to it, too, because he's too busy watching the football game. We shared inside jokes, teased each other ruthlessly, and I think deep down inside he loved me just as much as I loved him.But there's a lot of work to be done: the pressure is still abundant for women to behave maternally.
Those who do not, are largely considered abnormal outliers.
Explain your boundaries to all parties, and KEEP THEM. I offered a ton of advice about what books to read. I have a ton of other thoughts about dating people with kids, but I want to hear YOUR advice now.
Give Advice Here's the thing about all kids: They will listen to another adult before they listen to their own parents. Then, over time, I took it to the next level and offered advice about school, friends, food, movies, girls, etc. I may find myself in a new relationship that involves children one day, so I need as much advice on this topic as I can get.
It turns out there is very little literature on how to date someone who has children. After running into him over a period of months, we began dating.
Overnight, I was thrown into a brave, new world -- one that involved a tween.
(It's a small town, so we kind of knew each other, but not really.) I was extra, extra lucky because my boyfriend had a (mostly) good relationship with her.