Dating in numbers allowed me to make decisions based on what I desired, not based on how lonely I was at that time.It also helped me better define what I was looking for in my profile. Greater Comfort One great side-effect to dating so actively was that I became more comfortable with dating itself.I was discovering which conversations worked better than others and was able to avoid bumps in the conversation all together.
As the stress began to lessen, I started representing who I was much better.
Early on I was always in a panic-mode: trying to make sure everything went perfect on every date, overly concerned about the happiness of my date, worried about the impression I was making and so on.
It always felt like starting all over and was always painful.
Once I even continued to date a girl just to avoid “starting over”.
Looking back, this only made my dates uncomfortable and left me looking either weird or desperate.
When I had multiple dates lined up, I found myself very relaxed on each date.On one occasion when things were going very poorly, instead of stressing out, I told my date I didn’t think we were a great match but that we could still have fun over dinner.She seemed relieved and agreed to try to enjoy the dinner.Around the eighth month of my online dating experience, I gave up on my “sincere” method of meeting girls and intentionally tried to meet as many girls as possible at once.For the first few weeks, things were similar to my old method and I didn’t see immediate improvements but over time my dating life changed .I moved from one date a month to one a week and eventually was going on up to two first-dates a week.