I think the main thing is that you need to be up front about the "I have these kids and that's it." For any of us with potential deal breakers, they need to come out at least early enough in the process to be able to allow a prospective partner to decide before going further.
As others have said, men with children of their own might be good choices.Two friends of mine, neither of whom had prior children, have navigated this successfully.But having a hangover and caring for a baby don’t mix. Home Turfer At first, you unconsciously like escaping your world to hang out in his.If your man thinks the ideal date is all-night clubbing with bottle service, he’s not going to be up for diaper changing at 5 a.m. (The baby is with grandma and you’re getting a break from the single mommy routine!Whether each man I date knows it or not, I’m testing him from day one. In other words, he’s not looking to settle down or meet your kid any time soon.
“He's insecure and desperately needs to demonstrate control.” So what if he ordered an eighty-dollar bottle of wine at dinner and drives a nice car?I think I could navigate it myself as I'm old enough not to want to to have biological children myself and I also learned growing up that stepparents or step-families are sometimes a lot better than your blood relatives.Speaking of which, you don't mention your age.“I had a couple of requirements for my mom friends,” says Frank.“One was, I needed to be able to make a stupid joke without getting crickets [silence] in return. “And most of all, you need to be able to say what you’re thinking without the other person giving you a look that says you’ve just screwed up your child for life.” For the speed dating portion of the evening, about 60 moms sat across from each other at a table, making conversation for 4 minutes before a gong sounded, at which point women on one side had to move to the left to meet their next prospect.It's not first date information but relatively soon. You're in a bind because you have three kids, which is likely to attract a certain kind of guy that is family-minded, but can't have more children yourself.