I studied relationships for a long time and took good notes on what things blissful couples do differently than those who have the typical relationship full of ups and downs.
The three "ingredients" turned out to be anything but the trite, usual drivel we've all heard before. Today, it is my pleasure to take those three secrets and impart them to you-albeit with my own spin, of course.1) Always Think The Best Of Each Other Basically, the concept here is that both spouses should gravitate towards the positive options when considering each other's intentions, actions, whereabouts, etc. See, if this isn't done, there ends up being a "cumulative effect of all the small things". There wasn't ever any true forgiveness if that's going on.If s/he says something that could have two meanings, assume the positive one. Yeah, I realize this is all about "trust", but it's much deeper. Don't ask me why that's in quotes-you don't want to know. Let me ask you this: Assuming you have a "significant other", has there ever been an argument where one or both partners brought up something that happened weeks, months or even YEARS ago? Now, I'm not talking about forgiving major, real breaches of covenant here as covered in a previous newsletter.Would you want a relationship that felt like you were on a honeymoon that never ended? Even my mother has the scars from two unsuccessful marriages (the third one is finally working out well). Growing up I was surround by unhealthy relationships. Most of my aunts and uncles have also had failed marriages.This show will inspire you to think differently about dating which will result in different (and happier) dating results!
It was a typical church wedding, which meant that the minister who was marrying them inevitably gave a sermon. By this, I mean I remember the outline of it three and a half years later.I took their decades of wisdom to heart and when I began my own marriage I already knew a lot of what I should and shouldn't do if it was to be the marriage of the elusive top 1%.It wasn't before long that friends, co-workers and people that barely knew me began to ask me the "secret of our marriage success".It's more like having the self-esteem to be confident in one's choice of a spouse...enough to believe that s/he has the best interests of both partners in mind. And you know what, I would tend to believe this is an attitude that falls under the "self-fulfilling prophecy" department.2) Forgive Quickly There is absolutely, positively zero chance that a long, successful marriage is going to be 100% free of mistakes having been made over the long haul. There's a different concept at play here, and I think you get my drift.If you don't, email me right away for some coaching!Gloria talks to Vedic astrologer and relationship coach Carol Allen. You’ll find out about the four critical keys to relationships and how compatibility isn’t as important as we have all been taught and they’ll talk about “single archetypes” that can be seen in the stars and contribute to you being and staying single – and what you can do to change them.